Ever felt like your Nerd Cred was being questioned by the very same Nerd community? It’s not as rare as you think…
#TESTMYNERDCRED No.1: You only like ‘xyz’ to seem cool or sexually alluring
Usually, our choice to be bear the title of ‘nerd’ or ‘geek’ (or whatever classification you chose) had little to do with trying to appear impressive.
I know, I certainly didn’t opt into geekdom to excite or to invite male attention. My choice to proudly straddle the nerd-geek spectrum was (and has always been) a personal choice. I’m old enough to say that I liked ‘that nerdy stuff’ before it was cool (and when being a ‘geek’ or a ‘nerd’ was the epitome of being an A-grade loser).
I knew I was into comics, fantasy and anime before I realised boys could provide a whole new level of entertainment.
This is not a fashion ‘thing’. I repeat…this IS NOT A FASHION-THING!
NB: Dear reader, if you do happen to be following a nerdy trend in the hopes of appearing cooler/sexier to your peers, I sincerely hope you stop and try to find the ‘xyz’ that makes you truly happy – just for you and no one else! You’re already perfect as you are, and fakery isn’t a great way to make friends or to find satisfactory sexual relationships.
#TESTMYNERDCRED No.2: What do you mean you don’t like ‘xyz’?
When the ‘nerd-geek’ (because I use both words regularly within this context) community starts to attack its own simply because a person doesn’t like something (popular or otherwise) then we have a problem.
What right do you have to judge someone’s suitability based on your own bias?
Now, let me throw a huge, shiny chrome spanner in the works by stating unequivocally that I CAN’T STAND DOCTOR WHO!!
I’m sure there’s a Whovian out there having a flipping melt down and breathing into a sonic-screwdriver-shaped asthma pump right now.
And you know what? It’s my prerogative to find it dull and boring.
Phew! Now that’s out of the way… pray, let us continue.
#TESTMYNERDCRED No.3: You don’t belong because you don’t conform
First up, we’re humans not The Borg and our community is not The Collective!
Secondly, respect what a community is meant to represent:
“A community is a social unit of any size that shares common values.” (underlining my own)
In my opinion, one of the reasons we respect our delineation as ‘nerd-geeks’ is because we refuse to be standardised. Sharing common values does not equate to a homogenised society.
We unite because there is a lack of acceptance. For years, many of us were misunderstood by family, friends and peers for enjoying ‘that weird stuff’
NB: I once told a colleague I was going to see a Marvel film and with a look like she’d just stepped in doggy-doo, she said, “I’m not into that stuff.”
The ‘Nerd-Geek’ Community generally feels like an inclusive one, but we’re just as susceptible to prejudice as the rest of the world. Racism, sexism and heterosexism (among some of the many prejudices in existence) still provide walls to be torn down. Our community is still a work in progress.
Many of us will have found shelter within the ‘nerd-geek’ community because we’ve come across some form of prejudice. It can happen at any age and to anyone, and we should know better than to perpetrate the prejudice that led us here in the first place.
It’s easy to lose oneself in the hive mentality of social media like Twitter. But always remember we are a community of passionate individuals that share common values – and THAT is what makes us POWERFUL!
PS: My nerd cred was tested this weekend, when MightyO was scrolling through Netflix and passed Teen Wolf (1985). I said that I’d never seen it all the way through, and he thought I was joking (I wasn’t). When he realised I was being sincere, there followed a shocked silence before he pressed play on Netflix. I don’ t think I’ve ever seen him so confused (and slightly disappointed in his own perception of his wife!) HA!
PPS: Nice to be back. Existential crisis not over, but now managable.
PPPS: I really enjoyed Teen Wolf (1985) and couldn’t get over how young Michael J. Fox looked.
PPPPS: Stiles is still my favourite character.